Every little boy has a favorite superhero. Whether it’s Batman or Spiderman, little boys have an overwhelming desire to be strong and possess the skills to fight the bad guys.
As a kid, I honestly thought I was Spiderman. I wore my Spiderman Underoos just about every day. I even had the little web slinging glove (which the 70’s version fails in comparison to what is available today). One Saturday morning after watching Spiderman, I actually went outside with a jump rope that I slung over a tree limb. Somehow I thought the rope would cling to the tree so that I could swing like Spidey, and of course it didn’t so I landed flat on my back!
Now my son is carrying on the tradition of being Spiderman. He sleeps in Spiderman pajamas every night, wears Spidey socks and has way too many Spiderman figures, cars and other gadgets. When you say “Matthew” he says, “No, I’m Spiderman”! I promise I didn’t drill Spiderman into his head. It just came naturally, call it genetics. So far he has not attempted to swing on a tree, but once he does, it will make the circle of life complete.
As he continues to grow and develop, it amazes me to watch the similarities we share. I notice that he watches my every move and repeats everything I say (which is not always a good thing). Literally, when I stop suddenly, he bumps into me, because he is usually walking right behind me… in my footsteps.
Growing up without my dad was disappointing and difficult at times, especially since I didn’t have siblings to play with. I didn’t have a dad to crawl around the house and spray spider webs and attack the bad guys with my little ninja skills.
Now that I have my own son, I don’t care how crazy I look shooting fake spider webs in public. And yes, I will wear my Spiderman, Batman and Superman t-shirts with pride. Why? I want my son to enjoy life and explore his imagination. But in many ways, I’m creating the childhood moments that I missed with my own dad.
Dads – It’s easy to get consumed with providing for our families. Work can take over our lives. We allow deadlines and stress to limit our time spent with our children. Even when we are around, the smartphone is buzzing with emails and phone calls that take our attention away from them. Then we look up and our children are grown and we’ve totally missed it.
Take time out to spend real quality time with your children. Make sure that you are totally present. It’s not easy and frankly in no way am I the perfect example for others! I just pray that my son always remembers that I was willing to drop my iPad to jump over the couch, crawl under the table and shoot the bad guys in the other room with my spider webs to keep our house safe.
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